My nephew, age 17, has been home-schooled all his life. I visited my sister’s family last week for the first time in years and realized my nephew is extremely sheltered and has no social skills. When I wanted to take a walk with him, my sister was nervous because she never lets him go anywhere without her. Taking him to Starbucks I realized that he had never ordered for himself before and had no idea how to talk to the cashier. My sister and her husband do not let the boy watch TV, go outside alone, or have friends. What should I do about this? Should I say something to my sister or not get involved?
I approximate all my expenses for the month and then I WRITE THEM DOWN: BILLS, FOOD, INSURANCE… for the month. Every Monday, I sit down and make any adjustments to my projections…It takes about one hour out of the day. And when you’ve written everything down, take a look at what’s essential and what you can start spending less on. Remember that little changes payoff! BIG TIME!!
To just accept that we have trauma in our lives and to be OK with that is what emotional intelligence is really all about. Peace allows the brain to function more fully, to open up to all experience and to bring meaning as it processes the intuitive aspects of your mind. A closed down and dysfunctional approach to life, one without peace, is one that does not allow intuition or meaning.
But what can a dating coach do for you in cyberspace? Lots actually. First they can examine your profile page and give tips on how to design one that is more eye-catching. Because like a bar, looks do account for something on the internet, maybe even more so than a bar! A good coach can help you select the best pictures to put on your page and advise you on how to write a profile that truly expresses your personality.
Social networking is the means by which you socialize online and network with others through a variety of web sites. You might be doing it already and not even know it. If you are on Facebook or MySpace, then yes you are already engaging in the practice of social networking.
Never interrupt. Let people finish what they are saying before adding your comments. Interrupting others is a sign of poor etiquette and lack of emotional intelligence. If you want to come across as egotistical, you can do so by constantly interrupting. Tip: count to twenty before speaking.
Now let’s learn from the resilient trees. When they sensed that the river was eroding the ground from beneath them, they sent new roots sideways into the river bank. They noticed a problem and sought firm ground to solve it. Then they grew these new roots bigger and deeper into the bank, sometimes wrapping around boulders for extra stability.
By learning to work with your introverted personality, you can enjoy being social, and still have the energy to feel that deep sense of self that makes you an introvert. Just work to slowly develop your social skills so that you can engage others when you feel up to it.